Dating and Preparing for Marriage

 Marriage is a beautiful thing. Millions upon Millions of families have started through marriage. There is a step before marriage though, and that would be dating! You have to date and get to know the love of your life before they become that. 

    In class, I heard a statistic that disturbed me a bit about dating. Between College Students, on average, people go on dates once and have three hookups in a year. Firstly, that stat is just disgusting, and secondly, it shows that dating is on the downfall. A common way of getting to know people nowadays is "hanging out." People hangout instead of going on a date. Hanging out typically includes a group of people, and it makes it harder to really connect with one person. There's nothing wrong with asking somebody on a date, but so many people are scared of it. Some reasons people don't go on dates is that they don't want to lead somebody on, fear of rejection, and people think there is an expectation of commitment beforehand. You don't necessarily have to be romantically interested in somebody to go on a date with someone. The point of dates is to see if this is somebody you would be compatible with and want to take things beyond friendship. Society today thinks that you already have to be boyfriend-girlfriend to go on a date with each other. Something that helps though is to pray. If you are or aren't sure if you want to date or continue dating someone, pray for guidance, and ask if it's the right thing. Then take action, don't wait for an answer. If it's not the right thing, the Lord will let you know.

    Something else about dating, it's great. It's a great chance to get to grow closer to people, but sometimes people take things too quickly. Some people are more physical, and when we are physical with somebody, our brains are hardwired to feel more attached or connected with them, even if we know practically nothing about the other person. Sometimes it's just better to take things slow. Enjoy the journey. Get to know them. Learn their likes and dislikes. There's plenty of time in the world, so there's no need to try and rush a physical relationship with somebody. Also, another common misconception is that romance is the most important part of a relationship, but in reality, it's not. Sure, it's great, and it is very important, but not THE most important part. There are so many other aspects that stack on top of each other to build a healthy and happy relationship. How is their personality, are they kind, how do they treat other people? These are all things to take into account when starting a relationship. 

    One last thing that was mentioned in class that I think is important was something called DTR, otherwise known as Defining the Relationship. Talk to each other about your relationship. It shouldn't be something uncomfortable. If you can't talk about what you are to each other, then you can't ever dream to have a happy relationship or marriage. 

    Altogether, Dating and Marriage is great. It's important to have strong bonds with others, and in the case of marriage, so we can start families!

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